Civility

A blog about exploring civility in today's society.

Month: May, 2014

Why I love Random Acts of Kindness

“The best portion of a good man’s life: His little, nameless unremembered acts of kindness and love.” – William Wordsworth

“No act of kindness no matter how small is ever wasted.” – Aesof

Watching Random Acts of Kindness videos is by far one of my favorite pass times. But, not just because of the feel good moments. I love it because it inspires me to get out and do something good for a perfect stranger.

There are things that everyone can do to improve the lives of others. The most important things are those little surprises of kindness.

I think these mean the most to me and inspire me so much because it really makes the world feel so small. It makes you care about a person you’ve never seen before or might never see again. It puts compassion and humility into the world and makes it a completely awesome place to be.

The news covers some horrific and unfortunate tragedies. As we all know, at times they are very hard to watch. Things like violence, cruelty, and murder make me confused and sick to my stomach.

But, as bad as these things are there are always counteracting stories and people who will never stop being good to others. These are the people I want to highlight. These are the people I want to dedicate this post to. These are the people I admire whole heartedly.

I hope everyone wants to be a little more like these incredible people who will help you in a time of need, surprise you when you’re feeling down, give a selfless random act of kindness to help someone they may never know.

In my opinion, the idea of doing something small yet kind for someone else for the pure joy of brightening their day is one of the greatest pleasures of life. And watching these heart warming videos on YouTube of people doing random acts of kindness takes second best. The internet is filled with intense videos of human compassion that will absolutely leave you speechless (even me–and that’s hard to do!) and wanting more.

So go on and check it out. Go get inspired. Go do great things.

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I love the internet: R.A.K.

There are 10,500,000 results when you google “Random Acts Of Kindness” and I bet each one of those links would not only put a smile on your face, but inspire you to go out and do your own random act of kindness.

One of my favorite websites, reddit.com, has a “sub-reddit” on “r/randomactsofkindness” and it’s probably my favorite thing ever because stuff like this happens:

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and this:

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These are such beautiful, caring and unexpected things to do. This entire “sub-reddit” just makes me want to be a better person. I feel the same way when I watch “Random Acts of Kindness” videos on YouTube. There’s a really good one where a guy spends his 22nd birthday doing “22 Random Acts of Kindness” in Islamabad, Pakistan.

I hope after viewing these random acts of kindness on reddit and YouTube everyone will want to complete a random act of kindness.

I want to hang out with people that do these types of things for others just because it’s a good thing to do. I want to inspire people to do these random acts of kindness by doing them myself.

I think the world would be a much better place if everyone did random acts of kindness more often.

Annnnndddd. I know the best way to get started!

“The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation” is dedicated to “inspiring people to practice kindness and pass it on to others” and it seems like a pretty fantastic organization.

They have a calendar on their website called the Kindness Calendar and there is a random act of kindness for you to do every single day of the year! How neat is that?! So watch these videos, be inspired, and go do some random acts of kindness. I promise it will make you feel so great about your life and definitely make the other person super happy as well!

Because, let’s be honest, who doesn’t love a little R.A.K.?

For more information about “The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation” you can check out their homepage by clicking here.

Good Cop, Bad Cop, Great Day

Something really great happened in Quincy, California last month.

“Being a cop is tough.”
“Nobody’s ever happy to see you.”

So, these police officers decided to try to change people’s minds. They had a little help from their friends Wall’s Ice Cream.

The police officers pulled people over driving in Quincy for “being too serious.” It was great.

Greg Hagwood is the Plumas County Sheriff he’s been with the Sheriff’s department for 26 years. I think it’s safe to say this was one of his favorite days on the job.

Sheriff Hagwood and a few other police officers started out by pulling cars over. Then they walked up to the vehicle and asked, “Are you familiar with vehicle code 339472?” Obviously all the participants had no idea what he was talking about. He then asked, “How many people do we have on board?” The people were so confused when they answered the officers. The police officers excused themselves for a moment, went to their cars and came back with … ICE CREAM! What?!

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The officers got all kinds of responses from the unknowing citizens, one girl was even in tears. The idea of surprising these random people throughout the day is such a great idea. I definitely wouldn’t mind if a police officer pulled me over for doing nothing wrong and then gave me ice cream. I don’t know about you but that would absolutely make my whole day!

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I think I would be inspired to give out free ice cream to perfect strangers. Because, let’s be honest, who doesn’t like ice cream. Okay, okay minus people who are lactose intolerant. But, that’s why we have Sherbet.

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The police officers in this awesome video weren’t just being kind to these random citizens. They were really trying to get a message across. It was basically the best Public Service Announcement. Here’s the lesson we all need to take from this video:

“People need to lighten up a little bit.”

But in this kid’s defense, it’s hard to do when this happens:

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Wall’s Ice Cream has a pretty awesome YouTube channel that you can check out here. My favorite’s are “Funteruption” and “Wall’s Children’s Day.”

Strangers, First Impressions & Our Own Imperfections

BuzzFeed brought in six people to discuss their personal appearances. They had each person stand alone in front of a mirror and describe themselves.

The individuals involved said things like:

“I’m kind of self conscious of my round race.”

“I think I have donkey legs.”

“I’ve always been self conscious of my dimples.”

“When I look in the mirror I think do I need to lose weight?”

The participants didn’t know there were actually strangers sitting on the other side of the mirror. Those people were giving their first impressions of those standing in front of the mirror. These were their first impressions:

“He has really nice cheek bones.”

“That’s a great body type. I don’t know if she realizes how lucky she is.”

“He seems like a good guy.”

“I really like her smile. She has really cute dimples.”

“I think she’s in shape. If she’s mean to herself than that’s just one of those weird things where everyone is harsher on themselves.”

I think the concept of this video is relevant to being civil because everyone has been in this vulnerable situation. Everyone knows the sayings, “Treat others how you want to be treated” and “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” I think we are truly better off living by these rules. I think that people are too quick to judge one another especially solely based on their personal appearance. I get it, I do. Everyone does it. You see another human and you quickly notice something about them. I think the important thing to realize is that you know absolutely nothing about that human. The important thing to realize is what happens after you make that snap judgement about the way they look. Do not let something about their personal appearance turn you off to talking to them, smiling, or even just acknowledge that they exist. Everyone wants to be acknowledged. It’s clear from this video and obviously from personal appearance that everyone is harder on themselves. They don’t need your input on their flaws as well. It’s a nice change to get a smile from a stranger rather than a dirty look and a silent harsh judgement.

9-year-old Pays it Forward

If you liked the last post’s video. You’re going to LOVE this one. Fair warning: you’re probably going to cry. (I definitely did. #noshame)

In this episode of On The Road with Steve Hartman the show takes place in Toledo, Ohio.

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You can watch the video here: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=266590766850610

This little boy named Myles Eckert found a 20 dollar bill lying on the ground outside the local Cracker Barrel. He was as thrilled as any 8 year old would be. He said, “I kind of wanted a video game but then I decided not to.” Myles, being the incredible kid he is, changed his mind about the video game when he saw a solider in uniform in the Cracker Barrel. 

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This 8 year-old little boy wrote the solider this note:

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It states:

“Dear Solider-

My dad was a solider. He’s in heaven now. I found this $20 in the parking lot when we got here. We like to pay it forward in my family. It’s your lucky day! Thank you for your service.

Myles Eckert, a gold star kid.”

I’ve seen this video seven times and read that note about five. I still can’t read it without tearing up. This is a photo of Myles father, Army Sargent Aaron Eckert, who was killed in Iraq five weeks after Myles was born.

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After Myles gave away his $20 he asked his mother to take him to go see his father.

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This is Lt. Colonel Daily. On Feburary 7th he and his family went into the Cracker Barrel for lunch. This very touching moment meant so much to Lt. Col. Daily that he keeps the note from Myles on his desk everyday.

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This story is one of the most touching things I’ve ever seen. Myles’s parents and family should be so proud of the little boy they’ve raised. Paying it forward is such a great lesson to learn at a young age. It inspires young kids to do good things to make people feel good. But, it almost always inspires adults to stop and think what they can do to pay it forward as well. It is such a beautiful concept. I hope to see stories like this forever.