Strangers, First Impressions & Our Own Imperfections
BuzzFeed brought in six people to discuss their personal appearances. They had each person stand alone in front of a mirror and describe themselves.
The individuals involved said things like:
“I’m kind of self conscious of my round race.”
“I think I have donkey legs.”
“I’ve always been self conscious of my dimples.”
“When I look in the mirror I think do I need to lose weight?”
The participants didn’t know there were actually strangers sitting on the other side of the mirror. Those people were giving their first impressions of those standing in front of the mirror. These were their first impressions:
“He has really nice cheek bones.”
“That’s a great body type. I don’t know if she realizes how lucky she is.”
“He seems like a good guy.”
“I really like her smile. She has really cute dimples.”
“I think she’s in shape. If she’s mean to herself than that’s just one of those weird things where everyone is harsher on themselves.”
I think the concept of this video is relevant to being civil because everyone has been in this vulnerable situation. Everyone knows the sayings, “Treat others how you want to be treated” and “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” I think we are truly better off living by these rules. I think that people are too quick to judge one another especially solely based on their personal appearance. I get it, I do. Everyone does it. You see another human and you quickly notice something about them. I think the important thing to realize is that you know absolutely nothing about that human. The important thing to realize is what happens after you make that snap judgement about the way they look. Do not let something about their personal appearance turn you off to talking to them, smiling, or even just acknowledge that they exist. Everyone wants to be acknowledged. It’s clear from this video and obviously from personal appearance that everyone is harder on themselves. They don’t need your input on their flaws as well. It’s a nice change to get a smile from a stranger rather than a dirty look and a silent harsh judgement.